"Nikoniko (Smile)"
(A child-care leaflet to support families of
twins,triplets and over)
Asaka Public Health Center (Asaka Hokenjo at Saitama
prefecture)
Congratulations on your pregnancy and childbirth of
twins, triplets, quadruplets and over. Despite your joy, not a few people may
feel anxious about delivery and following child-care due to lack of opportunity
to receive advise from others in the same position.
Asaka Public Health Center started its "child-care
support services" in 1996 (Heisei 8). Throughout service provision, we
heard from many people that " We could have felt more secure if there was
more information about twins since we became pregnant". Therefore, a
child-care leaflet , "Nikoniko (Smile)", to support families of
twins, triplets, quadruplets and over was published with cooperation from
mothers who share the same experiences. Although the subject of this leaflet is
shown as "twins", our hope and intention is that this leaflet will be
found useful to the families of twins, triplets, quadruplets and over during
pregnancy period and following child-care.
Table of Contents
Support from the husband/partner and the
family
The child-care leaflet, "Nikoniko (Smile)", was
first developed in 1999 and this revised edition was published in 2000. You can
obtain both Japanese/English versions at the following internet address of
Asaka Public Health Center. (http://www.d1.dion.ne.jp/~asakahkn/ )
1 Probability of having twins
Twins were born at the ratio of one to 160 cases of
delivery till 1951. It was a little higher in the western countries than in
2 Cause of twin birth
There are two types of twins, "monozygotic
twins" in which their faces are very similar and "dizygotic
twins" whose faces have no greater similarity than their brothers/sisters.
In monozygotic twins, an fecundated ovum (fertilized egg) is divided into two
through an unknown cause.
In comparison, dizygotic twins are created when two eggs
are ovulated, and fertilized with two different sperm. The multiple ovulation
occurs due to mother's hormonal change, and it is conceivable that it is
subject to the genetic inheritance to family line such as motherfs physical
constitution.
3 Ratio of having "monozygotic
twins" and "dizygotic twins"
In western countries, there are more dizygotic twins than
monozygotic twins in natural breeding. In
The general method to determine ovum type is by blood
vessel of the placenta after the delivery. It is difficult to determine it by
ultrasonic diagnosis during pregnancy. The two placentas of dizygotic twins may
also look like one, so that it is inappropriate judgement method to count the
number of placenta. On the other contrary, it is possible that placenta of
monozygotic twins are split into two because cell division of a fertilized egg
is occurred at very early stage of pregnancy and each egg is implanted at a
distanced place of the uterine wall so that they develop two different
placentas.
Another very useful judgement method is to compare
similarity of twins. The most reliable one is blood type testing, not only ABO
model but also more detailed blood testing such as Rh and MN model. Another
methods are, earwax type, fingerprint and questionnaire.
1 The state of pregnancy and prenatal care
In a multiple pregnancy (pregnancy of twins and over),
the size of the abdomen become remarkably big, about 100cm at the time of
delivery. There are many people who have gone through hardships of morning
sickness from the early stage of pregnancy and oppressing feelings on abdomen,
dropsical swelling (dropsy) and backache after the middle stage.
In 70-80% of multiple pregnancy cases, women get
hospitalized before delivery for various reasons. Especially, most of pregnant
with triplets or over are hospitalized around the 28th week of pregnancy.
It is said that pregnant women (single baby) should
exercise, but this is not true in the case of multiple pregnancy. You should
take more time to lie down and rest not to overstrain yourself. This will
prevent you from having complications during pregnancy as well as reducing risk
of delivering lower weight baby (birth weight under 2,500g) and/or extremely
premature baby.
You should follow the instructions of medical doctor and
midwife at periodic medical check-ups. Multiple pregnancies are accompanied by
various health risks. There are cases when unborn baby is at risk although the
mother does not have subjective symptoms. Therefore, it is very important to
have periodical medical check-ups on prenatal abnormality. It is necessary to
have check-ups once in two weeks after 20 weeks of pregnancy. If you feel
abdominal pain, sudden backache, hemorrhage (heavy blood loss) or any
abnormality, you should call your family Dr. or health facility to get
examined.
2 Complications during pregnancy
Anemia, spontaneous abortion/premature birth, hypertensive
disorder, intrauterine growth retardation and polyhydramnios are possible
complications during pregnancy.
(1)Anemia
The blood gets weak (hypervolemia) during pregnancy,
because volume of blood flow inside of mother's body increases and also because
baby absorb iron from mother to produce blood. The incidence of anemia among
multiple pregnancy is twice as high as that of single pregnancy. It is
important to fully think out your diet to prevent anemia.
(2)Spontaneous abortion/premature birth
Multiple pregnant women's womb muscle stretch on a larger
scale. This opens the cervical canal and uterine contraction may occur quickly
which may lead to the premature birth. In single pregnancy, uterine contraction
usually occurs after 36 weeks, but for multiple pregnancies, it sometimes occur
around 24 weeks. When you feel stretching of your abdomen, lie down and rest
soon. And if it comes quite often, you should have an early consultation or
examination from medical doctor and/or midwife to prevent premature birth.
(3)Hypertensive disorder
Multiple pregnancies causes hypertensive disorder more
often than single pregnancy, and often times leads to a serious case. You
should take high quality protein, moderate caloric intake and very moderate
salt content. Lack of sleep, overwork and stress can also cause hypertensive
disorder for which you need special caution.
@Influence
on mother's body
Hypertension with albuminuria and edema causes
intracerebral hemorrhage, liver dysfunction, heart failure, respiratory
insufficiency and renal failure. Aftereffect of these diseases may require you
to have long term medical care after delivery.
AInfluence
on baby's body
Complications decrease blood circulation from
the womb to the placenta, which can develop a physically retarded child
(intrauterine growth retardation) due to lack of oxygen and nutrients.
3 Things to be careful
(1)Diet
It is not necessary to double calorie intake for multiple
pregnancy. Weight increase should be limited to 10kg to 12kg compared with
pre-pregnancy. Unnecessary calorie intake and fat will impose a burden on
mother's body which may lead to hypertensive disorder.(see 2-(3))
You should take iron, such as liver, shellfish and
seaweed (Hijiki, Wakame, Konbu etc) to prevent anemia. Soybean products
(Tofu,Natto etc), milk and seafood are good to supplement protein and also
vegetable with lots of fiber (you can take more fibers in cooked vegetable than
in fresh vege.) can prevent constipation. Salt content per day should be
strictly limited under 10g (2 small spoon) to prevent hypertension. You have to
be especially careful about the food made of fish paste (Kamaboko etc), ham and
sausages, which usually have more salt than you think.
When you eat out, you should be aware that you might take
too much sugar/fat/salt intake through strong seasoning, and also lack protein,
vitamin, calcium and iron. In addition, you should be careful not to take to
much processed food with additives, instant food and snacks. You should
think out each meal of the day, and prepare for one soup and two or more side
dishes (one staple food, main dish and side dish). You can get consultation
on total caloric intake and receive practical example of recipe from family
doctor or nutritionist light-heatedly. (Nutritionist is available at the hospital,
local
@Fragrant Fried Liver (from page 50, twinkids club bulletin Vol.
59) <materials> Pork liver:350g , Ginger soup: a
little, Sake: 1 large spoon , Soysauce:1 large spoon, starch: suitably, Oil:
suitably, Garlic & spring onion: a little cut into tiny pieces, Sauce
materials: (sugar:3.5 large spoon, soysauce: 5 big spoon, sesame oil: 1 big
spoon, sake: 1 big spoon) (1) in water for 1 hour to wash away blood(use milk
instead of water to reduce the smell of blood) (2) Cut liver to a bite-size
and put ginger soup, sake, soysauce (3) Put sauce materials into a pot until
its is boiled and add garlic and spring onion (4) Extract juice from the
liver and sprinkle with starch. Fly with 180C oil (5) Put flied lever through
(3) and decorate on the plate |
(2)Exercise
Need moderate exercise, but should stop hard exercise
before you get tired. If you want to begin maternity swimming or those who
played sports before getting pregnant should consult with doctor to decide if
it is acceptable. Shopping or going for walk should also not be too long.
(3) Rest
The bigger the womb becomes, the harder to get rest and
sleep. In order to prevent backache and stretching of the abdomen, better lie
down at least 1 hour each for morning and afternoon. When you lie down, it is
easier for you to put your body aside and put a cushion under the abdomen to
support your abdomen. In triplets or more babies, breathing is more difficult
since the womb push up your lung, so place the upper half of the body higher by
using a legless chair.
Support from the husband/partner and the family
1 Role of husband/partner during pregnancy
One third of pregnant mothers had greater fears than
happiness when they found out about their multiple pregnancies. (*) It seems
anyone can be worried when you get pregnant of twins. And also, compared with
single pregnancy, there are more concerns and things, which need attention
during pregnancy period. Therefore physical and mental support by husband/partner
and families with good understanding of mother's feelings and thoughtfulness is
crucial to reduce various anxieties during pregnancy. (*: twinkids club [survey
on condition and consciousness of families with twins/triplets and over1997] )
2 Cooperation by husband/partner and families
after delivery
The mother with infant (under 1 year old) can not sleep
well and gets more and more tired for first 6 months due to breastfeeding
during night and changing diapers etc.. If you have older child, it even increases
exhaustion during daytime.
There are many women who worry about not giving enough
child-care to each one of their children. In child care of twins or over,
severe burden on mother's mental health can be reduced extremely by the
support/help from the husband/partner. Not only actual support work of bathing,
changing diaper, helping breastfeeding, laundry and other housekeeping, but
also a little act of thoughtfulness/kindness and speak a word to mothers can
ease mother's heart much greater than you can imagine. Other families can also
help actual physical support as mentioned above, however husband/partner is
the only one who can support the mother mentally. If possible, let mother
enjoy her own free time of 2-3 hours per week (or even once a month), so that
she can restore her energy by refreshing mentally and physically.
1 Delivery timing
Delivery timing is usually a little earlier than 40
weeks. Statistics shows delivery occur the 36-38 week for twins with the
average birth weight under 2000g-2500g and the 30-34 week in triplets with
birth weight under 1200g-1800g.
2 Delivery style
In natural delivery of twins, a baby closer to the
opening of uterus is born before the other baby. In most of delivery cases,
second baby is born within 10 minutes after the first born baby and it is rare
that second baby does not come after 30minutes. In such case, or when the
position of other babies is not appropriate, the doctor may perform a caesarian
section to reduce burden of mother and child. The style of delivery should be
left to the doctor's decision.
Since most of the twin babies' have low birth weights,
the length of delivery is not necessarily longer than single delivery. There
are mothers who even mention that it is easier than having just one baby. The
impression that you have on delivery of multiple pregnancy may be "a
difficult task". This is because long term hospitalization before delivery
reduce physical strength of mothers and also because physical fatigue is
accumulated by moving around with multiple babies in the abdomen.
It also takes time for womb of the mother who had twins
to be contracted because it is stretched out and also labor pains after birth
may be very strong. While you are pregnant, a lot of burden was on womb, so you
need to rest enough after the delivery.
Lack of maternal instincts? When you take care of twins before they become one year
old, it is difficult to pay attention to each one of them without haste and
to enjoy lovely little child because lots of actual work for child-care and
housekeeping lead the mother being confused. You may misunderstand that you
are lack of maternal instincts because you cannot think your children are
pretty because your mind is too occupied with child-care. However, the
busiest time is for the first a few years. Although there will always be
twin-specific worries and concerns, physically tiredness is only
concentrating on the first few years. Someday, when you see innocent children
playing together, you should be happy that you give birth to them. |
1 When one of the babies is discharged from
the hospital
When there is not much weight difference between two
babies, bigger baby can also stay at the hospital until the other baby can grow
big enough to be discharged from the hospital. Some hospitals allow attendance
of mother discharged from hospital earlier than babies so that she can learn
actual twins-care practices at the hospital.
However, there will be a case when she has to leave one
of the babies at the hospital and being discharged with the other baby. In such
a case, although she cares about the baby still at the hospital, the baby's
existence may well be ignored because she's being swamped with care of the baby
at home. This situation is quite usual, but the mother should come and visit to
see and breastfeed the baby at hospital as often as the time allows. Unless
having constant physical contact with the baby at the hospital, there will be
mental distance between the mother and the infant so that the mother may start
feeling the baby at home is more prettier than the other and there will be a
risk that the mother become biased with the feeling that "I can't love
both of them in a same way" or "I wish I just had one" .
It is quite surprising that there are many who have such
biased feelings. You should not blame yourself that you are the only one to
feel that way. It is a role of the public health nurse to protect healthy life
of the community and they are the closest counselor in the community you can
rely on, so you should be courageous enough to consult with public health nurse
at the Public Health Center/ Municipal Health Center so that it will greatly
benefit your future child-care process.
2 Take it easy
It is natural that child-care for two babies is very
busy. Because with just one baby, the workload of mother is increased by
midnight breastfeeding, child-care at day time and housekeeping activities. You
may feel that you are pressed for time from early morning up to the midnight,
but it is important to prioritize your workload whether it is immediate need or
things can be done tomorrow so that you can do it one by one.
It is important to keep your own free time. When both
babies sleep at the same time, when they play a little quieter, don't try to
finish accumulated housework but keep it for your own time. Instead of
being frustrated with not having your time because of babies, why don't you
take a break, have a cup of tea with your favorite cup? Such small time can
relax you.
3 Cheerful mother and bouncing baby
The most important thing in child-care is that mother is
cheerful. If the mother is not
fine, children sense it. Raising twins is more troublesome and takes more time
than usual child rearing. What are the practical style for mother to stay
cheerful while sleeping time is extremely reduced.
(1)Use convenient goods wisely
You should utilize useful child-rearing goods to save
time and workload. It costs you more, but you should see things only from a
rational point of view that "mother's health is a MUST". You can also
make wise use of rental products.
For example, ? milk temperature adjustment pot: No need to pay attention to the temperature of hot
water ? paper diapers: Most convenient goods which reduces
laundry/drying/folding time. There are also lease company to wash and deliver
the diapers ? feeding bottle sterilizer: There are many kinds, microwave use,
antiseptic use, electric/steam use
(2)Mother alone should not work so hard
(child-care, housekeeping)
There are many chores which can be shared by other family
members. Don't try to be a "perfect Mom" to accomplish all. When you
are too busy to do it alone, ask for help to the other families. Not only
relying on your family, it is wise to utilize social services available at your
area to overcome the most difficult time of child-care. Most important thing is
that you are not too stressed out.
(3)Reduce total workload ( can be
cut-corners/skimp your job?E)
Most important thing is not stick to general method or
ordinal custom, but try to reduce amount of housekeeping and reduce trouble by
applying new ideas. The busiest period is not very long, so be relax and allow
you to skimp your job.
For example, ? Don't fold clothes and just pile up each one of the family members. You
may also dry it inside f the house and not to put it in drawers. ? Shop in bulk for the whole month. Home delivery services
and co-op (cooperative society) are also useful.
4 Child-care
When babies are discharged from hospital, real twin kids
rearing starts. In the beginning, you may not be able to recognize daily rhythm
of babies so that you feel like being pressed with time for breastfeeding,
changing diapers and sleeping. But most important point here is how you can
take the easy course of life so that you can survive and continue your
vitality.
(1)Breast feeding (Mother's milk)
Recently, the merit and nutritional importance of
mother's milk for newborn baby has reconsidered. Natural immunity contained in
mother's milk not only protects child from infectious disease caused by virus
and bacterium but also enhances intestinal activity and secretion of enzymatic
action. The infant with lower birth weight is usually kept in an incubator so
that they cannot suck mother's milk directly from mother, but the baby can be
fed by fresh mother's milk in a bottle.
Although it is understandable mother's concern about
amount of mother's milk is not enough or the style of breastfeeding for two
babies, the mother should not give up breastfeeding. Although you may have to
rely on milk at the end, it is enough if you could feed neogala (mother's milk
with yellowish color which appears in early stage). You don't have to get
depressed because it is milk. It is OK to start with mother's milk followed by
artificial milk as long as you choose the easiest and best way you can.
*Merit of simultaneous breastfeeding
When babies cry at the same time, you can
fulfill their needs at the same time
Daily living rhythm of two babies become
uniform
Enhance secretion of mother's milk
*Important points to notice
@When
breast-feeding simultaneously, don't fix the right breast is for A and the left
is for B. In addition, it is more likely that the babies vomit because they
cannot belch at the same time.
AWhen
the baby belches and vomits at the time of breast-feeding with the bottle in
fixed position, there is a risk that throw-ups may return back to the throat
and causes suffocation. To prevent this, you should put head of baby a bit
higher with the towel then put another rolled towel at the back so that whole
body is tilt to prevent from suffocation.
BYou
should fix milk-bottle at some angle so that it won't accumulate air at the
nipples. When the baby absorbs too much air, it reduces the amount of milk
absorption or it causes vomiting.
CYou
should devise a means to find out the best way for both mother and baby.
DCompared
with feeding just one, you may feel lack of sense of unity with the baby, so it
is recommended for you to see babies eyes by turns to make sure that you feel
sense of unity.
*Style: You can refer to the pictures shown below when
you consult with public health nurse or midwife to receive more practical
advise.
(2)Bathing
Bathing is one of the child-rearing duties, which can be
shared by husband/partner or family's support and also very helpful. However,
when mother alone has to bath babies, you need to prepare for two bath towels,
change of clothes, cooled boiled water in dressing room or near the bathroom.
When the baby's neck is not stable, it is better to bath baby when mother stays
standing by putting baby bath at kitchen sink or use of dressing table with
shower (at washbasin) so that it reduces strain to mother's back. When two
babies became able to bath with mother, you need to consider safety and style
to retain warmth of the baby by preparing bathing net and nonskid mat and also
put the baby in a big washball or in bucket.
Bathing is important for baby to be clean, exercise and
for recreational purpose, but it is a heavy load if mother had to do it alone.
Don't pressure yourself to bath the baby every day, but bathing can be done
every other day in cold winter or it can also be one baby per one day. You can
just wash baby's bottom, face and feet and hands when you don't bath to keep
them clean. In summer, leave babies in water and play with shower to prevent
from having prickly heat. Bathing babies is too hard for mother to wash
herself. When you have support from husband/partner and other family, you
should take a long bath time to wash yourself clean and relax.
(3)Sleeping
A few months old baby need frequent breast-feeding and
even though you put one baby sleeping she/he might be woken up by the other
baby's cry so that mother can not take enough sleep. Especially most difficult
thing is baby's cry at night. There are several reasons for night cry. You
better check daily life with the baby, such as time range and length of napping
time, enough play around day time and he way you treat baby etc.. For example,
if you take baby out when it's warm, they start napping around the same time
and rhythm of daily lives of two babies becomes united. It is also important to
fix the sleeping time, for example after breast-feeding after taking bath.
However, there are some mysteries about the reason of night cry, so it is
the most important to take it easy, "It will stop someday".
Instead of sleeping separately from the babies in the
baby bed it is easier to put them in the middle of parents so that it reduces
burden of standing up and dandle the baby. However, in this case, it is
necessary to be careful that bedclothes (futon) or pajamas of parents will
mistakenly close the mouth of the babies.
Don't rely too much on ordinary child-rearing handbook There are child-care style which are
specific to twins. Useful information can be obtained through child-care
circles and also from senior/experienced mothers themselves with their very
useful wisdoms and devises. You should not rely too much on general
child-rearing handbook. |
(4)Patterns (rhythms) of daily life of the
babies
@It is useful to take child-care notes on
breast feeding, changing diapers and sleeping patters to grasp daily life
patterns (rhythms) of each baby. When you are too busy child rearing and
housekeeping, you may forget important issues specific to one or the other
baby. If you have this memo, not only yourself but also husband/partner can
understand their rhythms. If you continue taking notes for a while, you can
grasp patterns of each baby's daily life so that it is possible to adjust two
babies?Elife patterns to uniformity, (for example, you can breast feed after
the bath to adjust sleeping time of the two) so that it can reduce mother's
workload. patterns to uniformity, (for example, you can breast feed after the
bath to adjust sleeping time of the two) so that it can reduce mother's workload.
For more information, please refer to the example below by using one page of
notebook/day, on the left half is for A and the right for B. It is also helpful
to write health conditions (body temperature, type of excreta.
<Example>
Baby "A" |
|
Baby "B" |
Mother
1:00
« (110cc)
5:00
« Mother after two
days
8:00 @
12:00« Mother
(90cc)
14:20 cooled boiled water50cc (130cc) Mother 22:00
« |
|
1:00
Mother (120cc) 2:30 « « 8:00
Mother 12:00«
Mother 14:30
Mother soft Mother 22:30 (140cc)+(60cc) « |
( ): amount of
milk Mother:
Mother's milk
«: Sleep :
Excreta
(5)Meal
When the baby food period begins, you can choose any
style of chair according to your house's life style, such as baby rack, baby
chair etc. Food spilling on the floor can be avoided by putting a vinyl sheet
or newspaper at the floor under the table so that clearing off is a lot easier.
It is useful to prepare baby food in bulk to be kept in
freezer or use of ready-made baby food so that tasty baby food can be prepared
in a short time. When two babies become able to eat by themselves, you need to
prepare their own plate and spoon etc. They will gradually learn how to eat
even though the beginning is difficult.
Instead of letting them eat continuously, you should eat
freely for 15minutes then feed them rest of the food. Their appetite and the
amount they eat is not always the same, so don't be depressed by that but try
to let babies enjoy the food. In addition, you don't have to put full energy to
prepare each meal, for example, if you give high priority to lunch, you can
prepare dinner with whatever food is available as long as daily nutritional
balance is kept even.
Useful food to be kept in a freezer 1)Dried young sardines: subdivide1 big spoonful
each and wrap in cellophane to be frozen(Put hot water to reduce salt and
defrost) 2)Spinach: Boil for an extended amount of time, wrap 2-3
bundle in cellophane (Need to reheat. Grind when it is frozen.) 3)White
sauce: Heat 3 big spoonful of butter and add 4 big spoon flour and fry
for 3-4 minutes not to burn it, add 400cc milk and mix quickly, add salt and
mix with weak heat for 5-6 minutes. Freeze it in an ice cube tray 4)Minced meat(western
style): fry minced meat with
chopped onion, broccoli , grind carrot and other vegetable and put it in flat
container and subdivide /draw line before freeze. 5)Mashed potato:
Boil potato with salt, mash and add milk or artificial milk until it become
smooth. In early stage of baby food period, you should strain the potatoes.
Subdivide each and wrap in cellophane to be frozen. 6)Porridge: put
rice and water(enough amount for porridge) into one tea bowl and put it in
the center of rice cooker when you cook rice, then you can cook both rice
and porridge together. |
Useful baby food *Dried young sardine & spinach porridge: Put
chopped defrosted 1) shown above and grind spinach in 2) and porridge 6) into
one bowl and heat quickly. *Western style porridge: Add baby food
soup, minced meat 4), porridge 6), chopped tomato and mushrooms into boil.
Put it in the place with pizza cheese on the top and bake it in oven toaster
(5min.) or microwave (2min) until cheese is melt. *Cream soup: Add
mashed potato 5), white sauce 3) and baby food soup and boil. Add milk and
filter out the grounds. Source: twin kids club special articles |
(6)Clothes
Basic points to be covered when you choose baby clothes
are 1)a pleasant texture, 2)absorb sweat, 3)Strong for continuous laundry and
4) easy to move around. In addition to those points, points such as 5) easy to
change clothes, 6)no need to press and 7)easy to change diapers are also
important in case of twins to save time. Decision to choose suits made of the
same cloth or choose different cloth for twins is depending upon your idea. You
may find it's helpful for helpers to define twins by color of the clothes.
However, the bigger they become, they choose the color they like by themselves,
sometimes they fight for the same color. On the other hand, there will be a
time when they feel relieved when they wear the same color, so that it is
necessary to respect what babies feel.
If you have older child above the twins, buying two same
cloth for the older child can reduce damage of the cloth and they are handed
down in a quite good shape. When the one has to change cloth, the other one
want to change also. It would be nice if your neighbor or relatives hand down
the cloths to your kids.
(7)Going out
When you go out, you may give ride on your back or carry
in your arms, but baby car is the most useful way. For twins, here are various
types of baby car from different makers. Lengthwise style is useful for walking
sideways or go through cash register at the supermarket. Lateral style is
useful to carry baggage on the back. Use rental or recycling baby cars in
different ways according to the age (month, year) of your children.
When the babies grow up, bicycle is another useful method
to enhance your range of activities. Tricycles for adults have big baggage
basket for baby carrying. However, it needs special care because kids may move
a lot or fall asleep on the bicycle/tricycle. It is also nice to walk together
hand in hand.
Turn a deaf ear (Pay no attention to what others say) Things others tell you and not pleasant are;
" how nice to have just one delivery and have two kids", "it
should be easier than caring child born within a year of another",
"they don't resemble", "Did you use pills (sterile
drugs)?". You should not care about these irresponsible words based on
their limited child-raring experiences. In such case, talk to husband/partner,
those who have experienced twins"/triplets' rearing or friends from
child-rearing circle. |
(8)Child play and Toys
You need to prepare similar toys to satisfy their needs
until two of them became able to play with one toy. Any belongings such as
newspaper or boxes can be their toys. Twins are more likely to learn how to
play with things and why "take turns" and "wait for one's
turn", because there is always someone to play with and learn from.
Although you may feel going out with two babies is very
hard, you should not hesitate at going out for walk or let them play at the
park when the weather is nice outside. You cannot take your eyes off two
children because two of them may not necessary play in a same way at the park,
and this may rather increase your mental/physical tiredness. You may need to be
courageous enough to go out for a walk often with your baby in a baby car when
they are very small, because going out with babies is not an easy job. However,
by doing so, mothers and children become acquainted with each other and also
you can feel reassured by many adults who will be able to protect children. For
example, when you have to run after one child, other mothers whom you can rely
on can put an eye on the other child.
If you have triplets or more, the reality is that babies
can only go out when your partner is around, however, it is no need to worry
that gIs it OK that I have not taken my babies to the park yet?E because you
can increasingly take them out when they become 2-3 years old.
(9)Quarrel and Friends
Quarrel of twins oftentimes begin by a scramble for
materials (clothe, food or toys). They may hit, scratch or bite. Biting is seen
while they are too immature to speak but it is decreased as they grow. It
depends on their power relationship, however as long as there is no risk, you
can leave them alone. This not only applies to twins but fighting or quarreling
between brothers/sisters is important to develop their sociability.
They may also want to play themselves if they get along
very well and dislike playing with the others. In such case, you may think,
"They always play together, so it may not be necessary to play with the
other kids". However, playing or building relationship with the other
children is very important to build sociability. In the beginning, it may not
be so easy, but you need to give them frequent chances. Even though they may
not be able to play with the other friends outside, they may imitate what
others did after they come home so that you can see they are aware of the
others as they are. With such experiences, they can play well with the other
friends when they start going preschools where you need to get used to
collective behavior.
Do you know "Modified age of the moon"? You count the age of the moon not from the
day the baby is born but from the day the baby wassupposed to be born. For
example, for early birth baby, it is better to follow modified age to monitor
her/his growth(physical and mental). |
(10)Personality differences and Relationship
between the two
You may think twins resemble in their appearances and
characters, but they are two different individuals with different
personalities. Those who raise twins want to raise them equally, but you may
worry when you cannot treat babies equally, or when the difference of their
growth is monozygotic. However, as long as you feel "both of them are
equally pretty" and express your feeling in your attitude, it should be
fine. It is very natural that they are different, so it is more important that
you can accept their differences.
You and other care-takers need to be careful when you
call their names. Don't call them together like "A and others",
rather call each one's name "A, B" or "B, A" so that they
can feel attention is paid to each one of them. Relationships between twins are
different in every pair. Sometimes it depends on physical or personality
differences and leadership may take turns. Some pairs have strong rivalry but
others do not. Each individual child has different character. Child-rearing
book do not have "HOW TO " instructions to each of these cases, but
it is you who know best about your kids, so don't worry too much about it.
(11)Avoid accidents
Infants are likely to meet accidents inside of the house.
*First few months: suffocation (with vinyl bag, towel)
*Crawling stage: swallowing objects
*Start walking: get a bruise/external wound (pull
tablecloth and things on the table drop down)
skin burn (turn down hot drinks on the table)
*Walking: get a bruise/external wound (hit head with the
corner of the furniture) drowning (play
with water at the bath room)
It is necessary for you to understand risk of accidents
changes according to child's development process. There are also many cases regarding tobacco use. For
example, baby may eat tobacco, skin burn by touching tobacco, drink remaining
juice which was used as an ashtray. If there are smokers in your house, all of
your family members need to be careful.
There are several preventative methods which are common
to all families; lock the bath room, remove water from bathtub or from bucket,
not to put step-ladder in veranda, put baby fence at the steps, don't put any
hot materials within reach of the child, put small pocket cloth at the higher
wall to put small articles.
However you need to be aware that wisdom of twins or kids
with older brothers/sisters could be three times as much as a single child.
They may behave something totally unthinkable to the adult. For example,
closing door is no problem when there is just one child, but if there are two,
the other might be at a risk of catching yourself/finger in the door. Or if the
one become stepladder to the other, they can easily reach things at higher
position. They suddenly become able to do things they could not do yesterday
and that may often surprise you.
You need to be especially careful when kids are1-2 years
old when they start walking and their range of activity is wider. When you try to avoid the accidents, don't
just say "NO", but it is rather important to let them investigate
around with full consideration of their safety. You need to teach about risky
behaviors to avoid as they grow.
Poisoning 110 (providing information on poisoning: charge) We can answer questions such as "drink
cleanser/detergent", "eat tobacco" *TSUKUBA poisoning 110: Phone Number 0990-52-9899
(9:00AM-17:00PM except Dec.31-Jan.3) * |
Join these circles and have friends who can share
experiences, you will feel at easy not being occupied with worries and
anxieties.
Twin Mothers Club Rep.name: Yukiko Amou Address: 1-5-10-722, Shimo Ochiai,
Sinjuku-ku,
Super twins network Secretariat is same as Twin Mothers Club(see left)
<Network of parents of triplets, quadruplets and over. When you become
member of twin mothers club, you are introduced this network as well>
Twin kids club Rep. Name: Nanako Kubota (editor of this book) Address:
1637-5, Honjo, Saitama, 367-0031 http://www2q.biglobe.ne.jp/~twinkids/ <Has membership all over
Miracle KOBUTA house Rep. Name: Kumiko Ishikawa (cooperate editor) Address:
846-12, Imafuku,
Sakuranbo Rep. Name: Yukari Murata (editor) Address: 4-6-26, Sakae,
Niiza, Saitama, 352-0014 <Network of parents of twins or over living near
Niiza city. Meeting at community hall and 4/year bulletin publishing
Twins &Super twins mailing list http://twins.mscom.or.jp/ Internet communication network of parents
with multiple children <With its easy access, exchange information among
husband/partner is also active. Off-line meeting is also held frequently.
1 About pregnancy
(1)Measures of pre/post delivery period for
female workers
To ensure the protection of the health of the mothers
under the Labor Standards Law, multiple pregnant workers can take a total of 22
weeks (14 weeks and 8 weeks of holidays before and after the delivery). If
single pregnancy, the total of 14 weeks (6weeks and 8weeks before and after)
holidays are assured.
And also, under the law on equal opportunity for
employment, employers are ought to take measures on the following items to
protect health of mothers. It is highly recommended that you use "Maternal
health management consultation communication card" (bosei kenkou kanri shidou
jikou renraku card) to let your employer know of your consultation from your
medical doctor.
*Ease commuting hardships: adopt staggered
working hours, reduce working hours, change
means & pathways of commuting
*Ensure taking rest : time extension, increase
numbers, change time range
*Comply with the
condition of the worker: limit workload, shorten working hours, take holiday
<For more information, please refer to your
employer/occupational health doctor at your company, or Saitama Labor Bureau
Equal Employment Department (Tel: 048-822-4273)>
(2)Household visit (ninsanpu houmon shidou)
Public health nurse will visit households to give
consultations on pregnancy, delivery and child-care. Multiple pregnancies have
higher risks of complications with hypertensive disorder, premature birth, so
please call / use household visit consultation services. <For more
information, please refer to the nearest
2 About delivery
(1)One-off payment at delivery to assist with
the costs of childbirths (shussan ikuji ichiji kin)
Health insurance is not applied for normal
pregnancy/delivery because it is understood as physiological phenomenon.
However it applies to Caesarian section. If you or your family has been a
subscriber to the National Health Insurance system for more than 6months, you
can apply for "one-off payment" of 300,000 yen per one child when you
applied to health insurance union after the delivery. Or if you or your family
is a subscriber to an Employees's health Insurance plan, you are also eligible.
<For more information, please contact your employer or
National Health Insurance division of your local municipal office>
(2)Delivery allowance (shussan teate kin)
In the case that you have your own health insurance, you
can obtain 60% (40% if you have no dependents under your insurance coverage) of
standard salary during the period of pre and post delivery leave (98 days
before expected delivery day and 56 days after the delivery) while you can not
work. This allowance only applies to the health insurance of company workers
and does not apply to the national health insurance services. <Please
contact your employer>
3 Child-care
(1)Maternity/child-rearing leave, child-care
time
Based on the law on child-care and nursing-care, either
husband/partner or mother can take child-care leave by applying to the employer
until your child becomes one year old. Also, based on Labor Standards Law, the
mother of children under one year old can take 30minutes child-care rest twice
(or you can combine them and take 1 hour/ day) .
<For more information, please refer to your employer
or Saitama Labor Bureau Equal Employment Department (Tel: 048-822-4273)>
(2)Provision of child-rearing leave/ Exemption
of health insurance and pension
If beneficiaries of employment insurance take child-care
leave, they can receive 20% of salary every month and an additional 5% of the
salary after returning to the work. Health insurance fee and pension fee is
excluded during this period.
<For more information, please refer to employer,
public employment security office (hello-work) for your child-rearing benefit
and employer, insurer, your health insurance union>
(3)Visiting newborn baby by Public Health
Center staff (Shin seiji houmon)
As soon as babies are born, please send the Birth
Notification Card attached inside of Mother-and-Child Health Handbook (Boshi
Techo) to the nearest Public Health Center of your town. If you don't have
enough time to send it, your family should call Public Health Center. If
required, a public health nurse will visit your home to counsel and assist you
with any problems youfre your physical/mental conditions and also with your
children. It is also a good occasion for you to ask questions and obtain
necessary information on child rearing from the public health nurse. <For
more information, please refer to your nearby Municipal Public Health Center>
(4)Child allowance (Jido teate)
For those raising children under 3 years of age and
income level is under certain amount, there is an allowance of 5,000 yen for
the first and second child, and 10,000 yen for each additional child. (In
addition, from June 2000, beneficiary age group will be upgraded from 3 years
old till the end of the year when the child became 6 years old) <For more
information, please refer to child welfare section of your city >
4 Child-care support
(1)Short time nursery
You can leave your baby in nursery care if you are in an
emergency situation when family member is sick and needs care, or at delivery,
or sudden business trip or any work related troubles.
<For more information, please refer to child welfare
section, welfare office, and child counseling office in your city >
(2)Nursery school (Hoiku jo/Hoiku en)
Nursery schools offer day care services for new-borns to
children who are just about to enter elementary school, whose parents are
unable to take care of them at home because they are both working or sick. Some
cities also provide day-care services. For more information, please refer to
each office since the conditions are different according to local authority.
<Contact child welfare section or welfare office in
your city >
(3)Housekeeping helper service (Kaji enjo
service)
There are social welfare council, community participatory
welfare user fee service providers which are available for families who need
temporary support. For more information, please refer to each office since the
conditions are different in each organization.
<For more information, please refer to the nearest
city council or Saitama Prefecture Social Welfare Council >
Name of organization: Saitama ken Shakai Fukushi
Kyougikai (Saitama Prefecture Social Welfare Council)
Address: 7-4-17, Kishimachi,
Phone: 048-822-1191 (main number) Planning/Consultation
Department
<For more information, please refer to the Saitama
Prefecture Aged Worthy Life Promotion Foundation >
Name: Saitama Koureisha Ikigai Shinkou Zaidan (
Address: 519, Kamiookubo,
Phone: 048-855-0200 (main number) Employment promotion
Department
(4)Baby-sitter
It is useful to use program in which private homes are
approved and registered for day care services. Some may charge you an admission
fee.
<For more information, please refer to the yellow page
or the following organization >
Name:
Phone: (HQ) 03-3797-5020
(
5 Medical care
(1)Premature Child Support Medical Fees
(Mijukuji youiku iryo kyuufu)
If the baby is born premature and weighs less than 2,000
grams, the medical expenses that would normally be borne by the family will be
borne partly or entirely by the prefecture (depending on the financial status
of the family) provided that it is cared for in a specified hospital. The
prefecture will continue to bear these costs until the child's first birthday.
<For more information, please refer to the nearest
public health center>
(2)Medical Allowance Policy for Physically
Disabled Children (shintai shogaiji ikusei iryo kyuufu)
The medical expenses of physically disabled children
(legs, hands, body, eyes, ears, phonetic/speech impediment defect, heart/kidney
disorder, congenital visceral disorder>) under the age of 18 which must be
met by the family will be borne partly or entirely by the prefecture (depending
on the financial status of the family), provided that the treatment is carried
out at the designated institution and there is a reasonable chance of
improvement or recovery. <For more information, please refer to the nearest
public health center>
(3)Medical Treatment for Children with
Specific Diseases (Shoni mansei tokutei shikkan iryo kyuufu)
When the child genetically inherited or contracted a
specific disease, which falls under the following disease category, you can
receive medical cost provision (in some disease only hospitalized cost is
covered) to secure child's development and cure for the disease up to 18 years
of age (In some disease, 20 years of age) by Saitama Prefecture.
@malignant cancer,Achronic
kidney failure,Basthma,Cchronic heart failure (treated by an
internist)Dinternal secretion related diseases,Ediffuse collagen disease, Fdiabetes,Gcongenital
metabolic disorderHhemophiliaImental/muscular disease <For more
information, please refer to your local Public Health Center>
(4)Medical Treatment for Specific Diseases
(tokutei sikkan iryou kyuufu)
For specific diseases (incurable disease) whose causes
are unknown and treatment methods are not established, you can receive medical
cost except for user-fees. Not only nationally designated diseases, but also
diseases specifically designated by local government may apply to this benefit.
(no age limitation) <For more information, please refer to public health
center>
(5)Medical Treatment for Infants (nyuyoji
iryouhi kyuufu)
For medical treatment cost for infants, you can receive
reimbursement of user-fees when other medical benefit does not fit. <For
more information, please refer to child welfare section at your city>
6 Consulting Organization
(1)
Public health nurse give advise to MCH (maternal and child
health) related issues such as pregnancy and child-rearing. Each public health
nurse is responsible for specific work and specific area, so you can readily
ask general to specific questions such as "how to spend time during
pregnancy" or "I live in XXX area, I would like to ask for advise on
child-rearing". Almost every organization has a nutritionist to whom you
can ask about nutrition management, baby food, and any other issue related to
nutrition and diet.
(2)Nursery school
At nursery school for newborn and above, experienced
nurse can give consultation on child rearing. It also plays key role as an
accessible child-rearing station in the community, which gives phone advice but
also opens a nursery school and/or organizes the community (mothers/children)
to have a place to exchange communication and to establish network. When you
pass through a gate of a nursery school, you will see many of them will welcome
you and your children.
(3)Family and Child Counseling Office
You can readily ask for advise on any issues regarding
your child or your family. It is stationed inside of the city council and/or
public health and human services center and there are child and family welfare
counselors.
(4)Children's Counseling Office
It covers relatively wider area and main activities are
psychological testing, child-rearing notebook, take necessary measures to refer
child to a nursery or sheltered institution or in charge of emergency
protective custody. There are six offices in Saitama, which are run by the prefectural
government and offer a general counseling and support service for children
under 18 years of age.
"When I found that I was pregnant with triplets, I
was very worried although I pretended to keep myself calm. After the delivery,
I tried to involve my husband to instruction and explanations at the hospital
as much as he could and we tried to think about it as a family issue. I was
introduced to mothers of triplets who later became important support for me.
Such experiences became precious things through which I could expand network of
many people who have similar experiences. I wish this leaflet will be sent at
hand of pregnant mothers and support their life." By Kumiko Ishiyama of "Miracle KOBUTA
house"
"There is much information on general child-rearing,
but very little information on twins. I had the pleasure to work with others to
make this leaflets to support child rearing of multiple children. My twins have
grown up now, but when I remember the hardest time when they were 0 to 2 years
old, I flatter myself that I did well. For those who are very busy now, there
will be the time you feel easy, please keep your family's pace. " by Nanako Kubota of "Twin Kids
Club"
"I had a chance to listen to senior mother with
twins when my twins were just 5months old. It was very encouraging to me since
I was very tired at that time. I also met mothers like me who have been
encouraging and supporting each other even now. I have a strong feeling that
child rearing can be successful only when necessary information is available
and you have fellow members. Working with others to create this leaflet was a
good opportunity for me to study. Now I started feeling that "I" have
to be prepared to be good senior twin mother. " by Toshiko Kobayashi of "NIKONIKO
circle".
"I remember when I was surprised and pleased knowing
that I was pregnant with twins of 7weeks old. Although I had very had labor
after being hospitalized at the latter term of pregnancy, I regret myself being
angry about my daughters unintentionally. Child rearing of twins is a
continuous attack of pleasure and hardships. But I wish we continued to support
and encourage each other positively and overcome the hardships because the god
gave twins for such parents with vitality. " by Shuuyo Takano of "NIKONIKO circle
(illustration)"
"When I was pregnant with twins, there were not as
much information or chance to get information as you can get now and I used to
think " It would be nice if there are mothers who have twins". Later,
I had a chance to meet many such mothers and became able to share pleasure and
hardships of child rearing. I am very glad this leaflet is published. Because I
was supported by many people, I would like to support and enjoy child-rearing
together with other members." By Yukari Murata of "Sakuranbo"
"Since we started child-care support for twins or
over, we have come to understand how difficult it is to raise multiple children
compared with single child-rearing and how much mental and physical burden
mother has when they are pushed by dairy child-rearing and housekeeping while
they can not afford to ask for advise from somebody. We wish pregnant mother
can find relief by getting information from this leaflet and also knowing that
there are many members who are doing their best and enjoying child-rearing with
support from each other. And also as the closest place to get advise from,
please readily ask for advise from us, public health nurses in your town." by Etsuko Shibukawa of Public Health Nurse at
Asaka Public Health Center
Aobadai1-10-5, Asaka-shi, Saitama ken 351-0016
Tel: 048-461-0468
Internet Address: ~asakahkn/
Published in March, 2000 by
Originally published in 1998 in Japanese
Revised Japanese edition was published in 2000